I've been feeling deeply reminded of why I began the Women's Gatherings over this past weekend.
As part of our human nature we carry and experience a lot of pain. We also carry and experience a tremendous amount of joy and happiness and love. What I have been reminded of, is that our culture doesn't hold a lot of space to cope with and experience the pain. It ends up getting contained or confined and simmers in the depths of us.
Everyone is so busy keeping up with the plethora of things and to do's, no matter how much we love and care for one another it's often hard to create the container that is needed for our loved ones when they are in a space of deep pain or crisis. Our culture isn't designed for us to drop everything and be with them. And when things crumble, which they do, we are left in solitude to some degree.
Sometimes, all we need is to be witnessed and held in our mess. We need to be seen in a way that we are not broken, but that we are only human. We don't need to be fixed, we need it to be okay that we unravel. Sometimes a good cry and talking it out to someone who simply listens is all it takes. Sometime just listening to one another's process is enough-it makes us feel connected to realize we are all living in the world experiencing the same but different pains and joys.
The share circle in these gatherings have deepened over the months and it resonates in me deeper each time the importance of it. It is not to dwell in our sorrows but to let them flow through us so we can be freed from their weight. So we can be seen, feel connected, trust what is flowing through us, and so we can find safety in being vulnerable.
To find clarity of what nourishes, we must first decipher what we are choosing to nourish.
We must sift through our priorities and what we really want in this life. What are we comfortable letting go of? What must we let go of to create the time, space and energy to actually tend to our deepest values? We must learn to dance with the present moment and the big picture at the same time.
There are different realms in our lives to be nurtured and it is ultimately up to us to decided what we feed. It takes sifting through and finding balance, to make sure we are not losing our center, our footing, our clarity.
There are our loved ones. Our most cherished relationships. There is the realm of joy, laughter, simplicity and enjoying the physical realm of the earth and our bodies. There is the emotional realm and personal growth, working with our shadows and our deepest wounds and seeing where we are creating suffering and self-sabotage. There are our basic needs of survival - a roof over our head, food and water. Then there are our passions, our gifts, what we feel we have been given to share with the world. Those things we carry deep in our bones, our blood, our souls.
From here we must sift.
We must decided step by step what is most important. And then we can discern what will feed these pillar points in our lives. This is where the integrity emerges. It is one thing to know what we need, and hear the voice of our innate wisdom. It’s a whole other realm to truly honor it. To truly abide by it. It's delicate and voluptuous dance.
Beautiful imagery by Leticia Isabel. I adore her art. You can find her on instagram here.